I recently was scrolling through Facebook when an article caught my attention – “Why every mom needs a solo vacation”. That’s exactly what I need I thought to myself. But is that selfish? Can I leave my husband alone with two little kids under 3 while I go on a vacation? Ok so maybe not a week, but I could go away for one night I justified to myself. So that is just what I did.
I booked a night at the Gideon Putnam in Saratoga, that way I wouldn’t be too far in case something should happen to the boys. I made plans for a mineral bath and massage the following morning at the Roosevelt Baths. I could hardly wait. A night away to myself. I hadn’t had a night to myself in almost four years.
Friday night as soon as the hubs got home, I kissed him and the kids goodbye and headed up to Saratoga. I hit tons of traffic on the Northway but I didn’t care. I was alone by myself in the car and rocking out to Eminem and 50 cent like I was back in the year 2000.
I walked through the doors of the hotel to check in and I had never felt so free. I made my way up to my room, slipped into a plush bathrobe and ordered myself some dinner and a glass of wine. It felt so indulgent. I settled in for the night in my large king sized bed all for me and my book. I couldn’t even recall the last time I was able to relax with a good book uninterrupted.
The next morning, I woke up and took a nice hot shower, got dressed and headed out for a cup of coffee and brisk walk. Alone in the fresh air, I was finally aware of my own thoughts. I thought about who I had become over the past few years and who I wanted to be, where I saw myself in the next few years. I re-connected with myself, the person I was before becoming a mom. My number one job will always be a mother, but I have other aspirations for myself too both in my career and in my personal life. With my goals set in my mind, I strolled over to the Roosevelt Baths for my mineral bath and massage. As I floated in the large tub, I listened to the spa music and the sounds of the water in the tub. All of my tensions literally melted away and I felt like I left them behind in the bath.
As I got back in the car to head home, I felt energized and refreshed with a new sense of mental clarity. I walked in the house and was greeted with a huge hug from my three year old as he jumped in my arms and the baby smiling and cooing when he saw me. I realized then that taking a night away every so often wasn’t selfish at all. They deserved the best version of me.
So if you’re feeling frazzled and like you’ve lost touch with yourself, take a night away. I promise you it’s just what you need.
I think I might make it an annual thing 😉
And thank you to the Gideon Putnam and Roosevelt Baths for my little “momcation”.