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30 Things your Labor & Delivery Nurse wants you to know

 

It has been absolutely balls to the walls at work the past few weeks (thanks to Valentine’s Day and the release of 50 Shades Darker 9 months ago – hello job security!)  By the end of the day I’m starving, haven’t peed, my feet ache, I’m cranky to my husband and I’ve been away from my son for over 12 hours, but I still go back to work wanting more. Why? Because I have the best job in the world.  Don’t get me wrong, when it’s a bad day, it’s a horrible, unimaginable bad day. But I feel so privileged to be a part of so many women’s lives, through the highs and the lows.  

Here are 30 things your labor and delivery nurse wants you to know:

1.) Whether your baby comes out the vagina or you had a c-section – it doesn’t make you any more or less of a mother.
2.) Same goes for whether you went all natural or had an epidural – it doesn’t make your baby any different.
3.) But if it’s your goal to go all natural we will bust our butts to help get you there.
4.) We’ve seen all sorts of vaginas and they’re all different, And we won’t remember what yours looked like. 
5.) Being upright is your best friend – walk, get on the birth ball, dance. Whatever you do don’t just lay in bed.
6.) Babies don’t come with handles, we can’t just yank them out.
7.) Breast or formula, it’s up to you, fed is best!
8.) Nipples – they come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
9.) We may tell you you’re 8-9 cms, there’s a good bet your fully dilated, but we know its best for you and your baby if we let you labor down.
10.) There’s alot of swelling that goes on down there so don’t be surprised if yours looks like a ciabatta roll the next day. We can make you a magical diaper pack with ice, witch hazel and dermoplast
11.) We have no problem kicking all your family and friends out of the room so you can rest, have some private time with your partner or if they’re simply driving you crazy!
12.) When you came through our doors and there was no heartbeat, please know as soon as we walked out to our car we burst into tears and cried the whole way home.
13.) And when we got home we didn’t say a word to our families that night we just hugged our babies tight.
14.) We still pray for you and think of you. 
15.) If you come in with a birth plan, we’ll start prepping for your c-section because nothing ever goes to plan.
16.) If you’re a redhead, we will have every anti-hemmorrhage medication in the room and the hemorrhage cart outside the door because there’s a good chance you are going to bleed out on us and we want to ward off any bad juju.
17.) There is no evidence based research as to the benefits of consuming your placenta – just because the Kardashians did it doesn’t make it right.
18.) We don’t care that you lost your mucus plug and no we don’t want to see.
19.) Just because you’re 1-2 cms dilated or one day past your due date doesn’t mean your in labor – go home and labor in the comfort of your own home where you can eat and drink.
20) Also you’re not in active labor until you’re 5-6 cms dilated so don’t listen to those people that tell you they were in labor for 72 hours.
21.) Also being pregnant does not entitle you to be excused from work so don’t ask for a work note – We work 12 hour days on our feet holding heavy epiduralized legs pushing with our patients for 4 hours without eating or drinking and often times work right up until we deliver.
22.) We probably haven’t peed since before we left our house for work that day.
23.) And there’s a good chance we haven’t eaten either unless a family brings us food.
24.) Our families sacrifice alot – were gone most weekends and holidays and at work from sun up until sun down so please don’t be rude. 
25.) Make sure your partner or support person stays hydrated and fed – we don’t have time to pick them up off the floor. 
26.) Laboring in the shower, tub or on the toilet can do wonders.
27.) We may contort you into a bunch of crazy different positions that we know have successfully worked to get someone to deliver.
28.) Being in labor and something about new babies brings out the crazy in some people and their families. We’ve seen it all and nothing surprises us anymore.
29.) You have a right to ask questions and refuse anything. And we will advocate for you.
30.)  We still think birth is magical and we have the best jobs in the world. 

30 things your labor nurse wants you to know



9 In Baby/ Motherhood/ Support

Lessons learned the first year of motherhood

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breastfeeding, csection, epidural, what i learned my first year postpartum

I did it! I survived the first year (almost) of motherhood. I kept this tiny human alive for just about 365 days (he turns one next weekend). There were many tears, laughs, sleepless nights, large quantities of coffee consumed.  But here’s what I learned:

1.) Throw your plans and schedule to the wind, just go with the flow. 

2.) I never knew a turkey sub could taste so good!

3.) That first bowel movement after a c-section can make you feel like your insides are going to fall out. 

4.) I can function on very little to no sleep. 

5.) Breastfeeding is not as easy as it looks. 

6.) Speaking of breastfeeding, it doesn’t matter how you feed your baby.  

7.) Flexibility is key. 

8.) No one tells you that being a new mom can be depressing and somewhat isolating at first.

9.) But it does get better.

10.) “Sleep when the baby sleeps” is the biggest piece of BS advice. 

11.) But the laundry, dishes, cleaning and everything else can wait. 

12.) Just when you think you have something figured out, your baby will switch it up on you.

13.) Take lots and lots of photos and videos. Babies grow and change at an alarmingly fast speed.

14.) But don’t spend too much time with your face behind a screen. Be in the moment. 

15.) My body is amazing. 

16.) My husband is even more amazing! Not that I didn’t appreciate him before, but after being up at all hours of the night together and seeing him with my son, it’s a whole ‘nother kind of love.

17.) There’s nothing wrong with co-sleeping. Seriously when you just need sleep you’ll do whatever you have to do and I don’t regret a single snooze Maxwell has had on my chest, not a single one.

18.) Don’t sweat the small stuff- sh** literally happens, so does spit up for that matter. 

19.) You realize what’s really important. And everyone has their own priorities and that’s fine, I have my own too. 

20.) I’m more comfortable speaking up for myself and my family. 

21.) Everyone’s going to have something to say but you know what’s best for you and your baby.

22.) Whoever said daytime tv sucks was horribly wrong. I could watch Dateline for hours and hours. 

23.) But sitting at home for 24 hours a day gives me anxiety.

24.) I’m not meant to be a stay at home mom. I need a little adult interaction.

25.) A nice warm shower and brisk walk sometimes are the best medicine.  

26.) And when that fails, there’s nothing a solo trip to Target can’t fix.

27.) Speaking of solo trips to Target, I need my “me-time” and have learned to try to do one thing for myself each day because you can’t give from an empty cup.

28.) Whoever invented yoga pants is seriously the smartest person ever. #momuniform

29.) Sometimes you still just need your mom. 

30.) Leaving your child with someone else eventually does get easier.

31.) Your relationship with your partner will change, try to make time for each other even if it’s just a little date night at home.

32.) Your sex drive will change. Thanks hormones and exhaustion.

33.) It’s ok to cry.

34.) It’s also ok to ask for help.

35.) Find a good group of mom friends. 

36.) Every kid is different.

37.) There’s no “right way” to be a good parent.

38.) Comparison is a thief.

39.) If you feel like your sucking, you’re probably a good parent.

40.) Don’t buy so many toys. Babies can entertain themselves with boxes and containers for hours on end. 

41.) But do buy lots and lots of books.

42.) Baby smiles and belly laughs are better than any antidepressant.

43.) There is nothing quite like seeing your parents become grandparents.

44.) You can never be fully prepared to be a parent, you figure it out as you go.

45.) I can live with the shirt on my back and pasta every night as long as my kid is healthy and happy.

46.) There is no greater joy than watching your baby experience something new for the first time.

47.) But it is also bittersweet because you realize they are getting older.

48.) Mama bear syndrome is real – I’m getting better I think 😉

49.) I always felt bad for moms of boys but being a boy mom is pretty cool.

50.) Just when you think you can’t love your child anymore and your heart may explode, you love them even more.

motherhood has made me tired and happy quote

 

2 In Lifestyle/ Motherhood

I have been nominated for the Liebster award!

I am so excited and honored to have been nominated for the 2017 Liebster award.  The lovely Wendy Lemeric of Times With Kai – A Mommy Blog selected my blog as a nominee. Wendy is a pharmacist turned mommy who left her job to enjoy being a mom to her sweet little boy Kai and to grow her love of writing. She shares motherhood tips and and her daily adventures with Kai on her feed.

So what is the Liebster award?  As stated by the Global Aussie “The Liebster award is an award given to bloggers by bloggers as a way to support the blogging community” and recognize new bloggers.  (You can read more about the award here)

Since the award is all about recognizing bloggers, I’m going to feature a blog that I love and think everyone should love too:


Meet Stephanie from The Darling Mama


Stephanie is the face and mama behind her blog The Darling Mama. I found her page on Instagram and like me, she is a wife, furmama and new boy mom to sweet little Jacob. Not only are her photos beautiful, but her page is so inspiring. She shares her experiences on entering motherhood and how it has changed her. As new mamas, I think its helpful to connect with each other to share our stories so that we can see what others are going through so as to feel that we are not alone.  What I love about Stephanie’s blog is that she has created a “Thankful Thursday” post where every Thursday she shares things that she is grateful for and she will also publish others affirmations if they would like to share as well. Motherhood and life in general can be hard sometimes and I think this is a wonderful reminder of all we have to be grateful for. Go check out her blog and follow along!


Ten Random Facts About Me:


1.) I am left-handed and I think my son is going to be a lefty too!
2.) In high school I was voted “most likely to be a soccer mom”
3.) I once had a patient name her daughter’s middle name after me, coolest moment as a labor and delivery nurse ever!
4.) I could live off of watermelon, cheese and crackers and ice cream!
5.) My celebrity crush is Channing Tatum – Jenna’s a lucky woman!
6.) My husband and I met in Boston, we lived in the same apartment building in college.
7.) I want to one day travel to Bora Bora to stay in one of those overwater huts and Africa to go on an African safari.
8.) I am a cancer through and through – emotional, intuitive, protective, homebody
9.) When I was younger my dream job was to be a marine biologist.
10.) The most rewarding thing about blogging for me has been connecting with other mamas and women and all supporting each other.


As part of the challenge I have to answer Wendy’s questions. 

1.) What is the most fun thing about traveling? I love meeting the people, hearing their stories.
2.) What is the most extreme thing you have ever done? Hmmmm, I’m not the extreme type. I’d have to say I quit my successful job as a sales/marketing director and went back to nursing school while my husband and I were newly engaged and in the process of house hunting. I’m lucky he’s super supportive!
3.) Bike or Train? Bike
4.) What’s the most unique dish you ever tasted? – Squid ink pasta!
5.) Batman vs. Spiderman who do you think will win? Batman
6.) How long would you survive the zombie apocalypse? ummm not long, I hate zombies!
7.) When do you find time to blog? I’m my most productive self in the morning so usually in the morning when the babe is still asleep I sit down with a cup of coffee and write.
8.) If you were going to be a character in someone else’s book who would you like to write it? Elin Hildebrand. I love the way she intertwines stories between the characters and all of her stories take place on gorgeous Nantucket.
9.) What is the scariest thing you have experienced while traveling? I don’t like flying it makes me very anxious and one time I was on my way back from a conference by myself and I woke up on the plane and we had hit alot of turbulence and I thought we were crashing.
10.) If you could give someone $1,000,000 who would you give it to? My parents. They are such amazing parents and have worked so hard to give my sisters and I the best childhood and everything we could ever need.
11.) Apple or Samsung? Apple

My nominations:

1.) The Darling Mama – Stephanie
2.) The Refined Mama – Courtney
3.) My Beckett List – Keenie
4.) The Millennial SAHM – Kermilia
5.) Hugs & Messes – Katie


 My questions for the nominees:

1.) How do you start each day?
2.) What is one blog post you are most proud of and why?
3.) Coffee or Tea?
4.) Favorite place you’ve ever visited?
5.) What has been one of the most challenging things as a blogger?
6.) If you could see one musician or band, one dead, one alive who would it be?
7.) What is your favorite TV or Netflix series?


If you have been nominated you will have to follow a few easy rules, you can find out more here.

I had so much fun with this challenge! Be sure to share your Liebster award post in my comments section below and in the comments at The Global Aussie. I think it’s an awesome way to get to know each other and support each other’s journey in blogging and motherhood!



2 In Lifestyle/ Motherhood

My newest obsessions and Jord Watch Giveaway!

The name says it all so let’s get right to it:

1.) Chicken Apple Sausage – I have never ever been a fan of sausage. But the other night I was over my parent’s for dinner and my mom made this yummy dish with chicken apple sausage, sweet potatoes, and roasted brussel sprouts – Delish! And super easy, and now I’m hooked.

2.) White Pumpkins – they give such a classy, glamorous look to the traditional orange pumpkins.

3.) Making my own cold brew at home – yeah I know it’s fall but it’s been so hot and to be honest, I love iced coffee year round but cold brew has such a richer flavor. To make your own: I make mine in my french press but you can use a mason jar. In my french press I put 2 scoops of coffee and 4 cups of cold water (I like a strong coffee). Stir well and then let sit overnight in the fridge.  In the morning I plunge to separate the grounds from the coffee and then serve. If you use a mason jar, strain so that you can separate the grounds from coffee.

4.) Rodan & Fields eye correcting cream – because #momlife and co-sleeping = mom bags. The lovely Miranda over at Miranda Southern was a gem and sent me this little goodie.  She is a guru on all things taking care of your skin (I mean her complexion is radiant!!!) so be sure to check her out here.

5.) This Nail Polish – You will only see me wearing two colors on my fingernails – light pink/white in the spring and summer and this dark burgandy “Carry On” in the fall/winter.

6.) Thieves – Because back to school, germs, and a teething baby that puts everything in his mouth. Put a drop on your tongue and touch the roof of your mouth for a minute or two for some extra immune boosting punch. We also love to diffuse and it smells like Christmas in a bottle.

7.) Jord Watches – So you may have seen these beauties all over social media. My husband is a huge watch fanatic so when Jord reached out to me about partnering and offering a giveaway to my readers I was ecstatic! And these wood watches are so perfect for fall fashion right now. One of the reasons we love Jord so much is because they “value sustainability, efficiency and experiential living” and all of their watches are made from raw materials.

I gifted hubby this Delmar series in dark sandalwood and blue carbon (https://www.woodwatches.com/series/delmar/dark-sandalwood-and-blue-carbon) for his birthday and it is easily his favorite out of his whole watch collection. The sandalwood is hand finished and scratch resistant. And the blue carbon fiber face is perfect for those “dark and stromy types”.  This is great for a casual night out for some beers or dressed up for a wedding or event. They also have a gorgeous collection of women’s watches as well.  You can browse their whole collection here.

From now until October 10th, 2017 you can enter my giveaway for a chance to win a $100 gift for your very own. All who enter get a $25 gift credit courtesy of Jord. (Gift codes must be used by November 26th, 2017).

Enter giveaway here!!!
https://www.woodwatches.com/g/ourtiny_nest

So now I want to know what are some things you currently can’t live without?